Fourth Day of Advent: Advice

It was by no error on our behalves that the third day of accelerated advent was skipped. Though the reasons for this are manifold, I would like to fill you in as to why: to allow our beloved readers to enjoy what we recommended on the second day of accelerated advent: time spent with your beloved. This, though always something the Captain Crunch Colloquium recommends to its readership, is especially true as the year winds down. With the ending of one and the beginning anew of another, there is a certain pregnancy of meaning to the time spent with the people you love. As the long-running joke goes, spending time with someone beginning late December 31st into early January 1st really is like spending an entire year together–though humorous as all crunch (I personally find it side-crunching), it belies a deeper meaning. With the death of each year comes the birth of another, a phoenix-like dichotomy whose inverse is applicable to interpersonal relations as the year winds down. As we near the end of 2018, we may look and reflect at the things happened and not, bonds broken and forged, wishes fulfilled and foregone, and see a way to improve moving forward. The same is true for friendships: with the passing each year, one can look back with new perspective and be thankful for those they love while also looking back at those with whom friendship surceased as blessings of their own.

And yet, our recommendation given two days prior comes with a stipulation. Life cannot be all good, and so it goes for all advice. Regardless how much you may love, and unconditionally trust someone, they may not be the person you think they are. Those who exist on that fine line between truth and lie do so unerringly but only to a point; it is but inevitable that they out themselves for the individual they truly. When this happens, it is hard to believe, for the fact is less pleasant than the fiction. Still, relationships cannot survive upon a framework of deceit. They can exist, fleetingly, ice-shelves in a globally-warmed world, but they cannot survive.

Our recommendation to you all is thus: do not feel obligated to continue relationships you feel are toxic. Try, try, and try again to mend those that you feel are important to you, but do not overextend yourself to the point of self-abnegation. Love not only those around you, but yourself as well, for the denudation of one’s will and hope for the sake of another will only lead to ruin.

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